I Will Not…….2018

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It is December 31st. I am sitting on my couch watching football. My husband sits across from me and my son is beside me. The older girls are out with friends. It’s bitter cold out so all the cats are in to keep warm. I have been on vacation all week so I have had little motivation and ate way too much, making me feel super fat. But I keep telling myself that it is ok because in 6 hours it will be a new year with new beginnings. (As I type this I am crushing an awesome PB&J.)New Years Resolution Quotes Funny New Year Resolutions Quotes – 1600×1600 Quotes Wallpaper

Are you like me when it comes to the start of the new year? Do you feel fresh and ready to conquer the world? Like a magical fairy waves her wand at the stroke of twelve and all the woes and troubles of 2017 disappear. If only it were that easy.

There are far far better things ahead than any we leave behind. – C.S. Lewis

When I wake up in the morning to the dawn of a new year I am still going to have debt to deal with. My good friend will still have cancer and take chemo.  I am still going to feel fat and miserable. The Broncos are still going to suck. I will still have to go back to work on Tuesday. My inbox will still be full of unanswered messages. And while I am eating cheeseballs, I will be thinking about joining the gym.

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I did a little research on the birth of New Year’s resolutions. And what I found on the History channel website was the Babylonians from back in the day would make promises in order to earn the favor of the gods. Things like paying off debts and giving back borrowed farm equipment.  Well, that sounds easy enough.  I have some Tupperware I need to return to a co-worker.

When we make resolutions we are just setting ourselves up to fail. I mean think about it, you make these promises to yourself to do ABC and XYZ or to stop this and that. It’s the same four resolutions you’ve made every year since 1998. And only 8 percent of us even keep our New Year’s resolutions anyway.

Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending – Carl Bard

I normally make a list of things I want to change at the start of the year. I am 100 percent committed. It is going to be the best…year…ever! And by the end of the week, I have failed miserably. The year just started and it already sucks. I feel like a loser. I don’t want to feel that way this year. So I am going to try a little reverse psychology and instead of making a “Things I want to do in 2018” list, I am going to make a “Things I won’t do in 2018”.

2018 Will Not Do List:

  • I will not stress about what I eat.
  • I will not play HayDay all evening.
  • I will not worry if my son’s hair grows past his ears. (As long as he brushes it.)
  • I will not let Wheel of Fortune be more important than eating with my family at our dinner table.
  • Speaking of dinner, I will not forget to set out the hamburger to thaw.
  • I will not let negative people get in the way of my happiness.
  • I will not let the devil have any power in my life.
  • I will not check my email when I am not at work unless I have set a specific time to do so.
  • I will not hit snooze. Just kidding – yes I will.
  • I will not let spam emails overload my inbox.
  • I will not be bothered when the toilet paper roll is empty, dirty dishes are in the sink because someone was too lazy to take 5 minutes to unload the dishwasher, and the toothpaste that is caked on the side of the sink.
  • I will not forget to tell my family I love them.
  • I will not adopt any more cats. Rob, you’re welcome. 
  • I will not forget to pray in all circumstances.
  • I will not stop laughing.
  • I will not worry about things I can’t control.
  • I will not feel like crap when I don’t have anything to write about.
  • I will not be ashamed to be American.
  • I will not apologize for being a Christian.
  • I will not regret eating a packet of Oreo covered in Nutella.
  • I will not be too busy to donate blood or give back to my community.

 

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I don’t know if looking at New Year’s resolutions from this angle will make a difference or not, but it has to be better than what I have tried the last 15 years. And I really do plan on having an amazing year. I have this sense of calm and peace. I have never felt so excited yet laid back at the beginning of a new year.

I close with this last thought. You have 12 new chapters to write and 365 new opportunities to seize. Don’t get hung up on do’s and don’ts. It doesn’t matter if you make a traditional resolution promise to yourself or manipulate a “will not do” list like I did, go into 2018 with an open mind and grateful heart. Don’t stress about the things you have no control of. Laugh multiple times a day. Do what you say you are going to do. Don’t talk a big game and not follow through. Don’t put up with negative, hateful people that bring you down. Leave that crap in 2017. Do what makes you happy and stand up for your beliefs. Thank God every day for his blessings. Write your best story yet, in 2018.

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2016 ~ The Year Of More

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It’s that time again. Time for new beginnings, choices and expectations. As I started to think about what I wanted out of 2016, the only word I could visualize was “more.” I have spent too many years saying what things I am going to do less. For example eat less, drink less soda, be less stressed, worry less, be less demanding, but every time I start with trying to do less, I always end up doing more. So with that mindset, I am going to focus on doing more this year. Here is my list of things I am going to focus on this year.

Eat more chocolate
Smile more
Give more hugs
Cook more meals
Play more
Read more books
Do more praying
Drink more wine
Write more
Save more money
Drink more water
Be more intentional with my time
Adopted more cats. (That was just thrown in for entertainment value. Or was it?)
See my mom and dad more
Give more

As 2015 becomes a memory, I look forward to all the wonderful things 2016 may bring. Obviously we don’t really know what the next 365 days hold, but the slate has been wiped clean. Here’s to more! Happy New Year!

All You Need Is Love

New Year 2015Happy New Year!! We made it folks. Goodbye 2014 ~ hello 2015. I love the first day of the new year because it is like a clean slate. You can start again promising to make this the best-year-ever! For me, that usually last till Jan 3rd and everything I swore to achieve goes out the window. As I reflect on this past year, I have decided to call 2014 the year of the roller coaster. There were so many ups, downs, twist, turns and the occasional loop de loops, we weren’t sure if we should scream at the top of our lungs in fear or enjoy the ride. Looking back, I think we did a little bit of both.

Some of the things I learned in 2014:

1. I am not in control – God is.
2. I am stronger than I thought.
3. The number 101.5 is evil. (FYI ~ this is the magic body temp that sends you to the hospital.)
4. The Red Hot Chili Peppers are still a cool band. (Thanks Madison)
5. People are awesome.
6. Skylander’s, football and WWE is what makes my 5-year-old tick.
7. I have an obsession with Goodwill.
8. Gratitude comes in the form of sub sandwiches.
9. Angels do exist and they hang out at Wesley Medical.
10. I know way to much trivia information about The Big Bang Theory. (P.S. ~ ranked number 6 in the state of Kansas on Quiz Up.)
11. I still do not know how to make meat loaf.
12. Cancer is not a death sentence.
13. Reading is fun.
14. I can almost be in two places at once.
15. The Donut Whole has the best donuts.
16. Change is ok.
17. I’m not too bad at Madden 15 on the Xbox.
18. Time with my family is really priceless.
19. I am one, fine looking grandma. 🙂
20. Four cats is the perfect number to have.
21. Long hair is way fun.

My husband and I were chatting last night about the past and the things to come in the new year. He asked me if I had any resolutions. Normally, I would have the typical ones like, eating healthy, spend more time together, don’t sweat the small stuff, etc. But surprisingly, I didn’t have anything.  As the evening went on, in between Farkle and Quiz Up, I started thinking what I really wanted to accomplish in 2015. Should I work on losing weight? I guess I could, but I love Oreos and Red Bull too much. Should I get up every morning and read my Bible? That’s a good one ~ but why should I limit myself to just reading it in the morning? Maybe I will drink less coffee and more water. LOL ~ yeah right. Tried those all before and failed. Wait. I have it. I can start a traveling circus. That seems more realistic. (Chuckle, chuckle.) I kept thinking and nothing was coming, until I laid down about 1am. As I was closing my eyes, one word appeared in my mind. I could see it so clearly. It was the word love.

EmilyS_1a_mintA copyLove? Why would love pop in my mind? I love things. I love my family and my work. I love God. I really love Nutella. So what am I supposed to do with L-O-V-E? Then it hit me ~ I need to love unconditionally in all areas. There are so many forms of love and I think I use that word to loosely. And with that, love just isn’t a word. Love is action. I can toss the term around all day, but if my actions don’t line up with the word ~ it means nothing. So here is my plan for 2015 and I can sum it up in one sentence. I am going to love just as Jesus loved. What I think is so cool about Jesus is He loved people so much He didn’t see their sins, He saw what God created and knew it was good. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally, no matter what they have done or will do. I want to be a judgement free spirit, who helps others and let’s them know they are worth so much. The good Lord knows I am one who has made my fair share of mistakes and yet He loves me anyway. And I want other’s to know that love.

Before 2014, I really thought I was a caring person. I would help people when it was easy for me. I would tell people, “Yeah, sure ~ I’ll be praying for you.” But was my heart truly invested in their needs? No, not really. I mean, I would feel a little bad, but it really didn’t stop me from my day. Then, in the darkest time, I really needed prayer for my family. I needed prayer for my sick daughter. So many people prayed. And I mean prayed hard. People from all over the world. It was overwhelming. And I was (still am) thankful for all those prayers because in the mist of the trying times, I didn’t pray. Looking back, a part of me wonders what would have happened if those prayer warriors had been like me. Only sort of invested in my needs. Would things have turned out different? Would Mallorie been in remission so quickly? Would the peace I felt covered me like it did? Who knows? But what I do know is that it is because of love people prayed, supported financially, cooked and even cleaned. The love that surrounded us healed us. Love flooded over our family. It was the most amazing feeling. I want to be part of the flood. I want to love others and love them deeply ~ just like Christ.

So that is my goal for 2015. And to be honest, it sounds way easier than going to the gym. And way more achievable then giving up Oreos. I hope whatever you decide to do or change in 2015  do it with love, even when it is hard. And when you look back at 2015 in 365 days, you can say ~ heck ya this year rocked!

 

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